May all beings be free of suffering, & the causes of suffering. May all beings have happiness, & the causes of happiness.
I try to make this compassionate wish, saying it silently, whenever I read of a child molested, or a serial killer, or someone defrauding others of their life savings, or some other example of people’s wickedness. I make it for the survivor/victim, & for the perpetrator too. And I try to repeat this when I am actually WITH someone who does something that I might ordinarily judge harshly, for example, when <<so&so>> says something racist.
In real time, when I’m in a situation, as opposed to when I’m only reading about something, I notice that sometimes it takes me a while to remember to say this. It takes me some time to invoke compassion because I dive right into anger. Or judgment, or frustration. Because I want to be away from that person, not ‘with’ them. Sometimes it takes me a long, l o n g time to say
May he be free of suffering, & the causes of suffering, may he have happiness, & the causes of happiness.
Sometimes, I’m not able to remember to say it at all. And when I do remember, I don’t know if saying this for someone actually does anything for them. I don’t know if the power of my compassionate prayer for them can travel through the ether, & affect their psyche, & their karma ……… their unsubdued, wild mind.
But it helps me. When I can remember to say it, no matter how long it takes, when I can remember to make that compassionate wish
May she be free of suffering, & the causes of suffering, may she have happiness, & the causes of happiness
it helps me. It frees my wild mind of the habit of judgment, the compulsion toward hate. It frees me of wanting to separate & be dis-continued with that person. It helps free my psyche of all the barriers I instinctively erect so that I can pretend I am not the same as that person. It gives me a mindful little slice of space/time where I can keep myself from slipping into old mental habits long enough to remember that I am not separate from others, not really, because I think & do & say terrible things too, sometimes.
And, so …….. this is a habit I wish to increase: to say, in the face of all the things that we humans do, the evil, the unkind, the unthinking ………
May we all be free of suffering, & the causes of suffering. May we all have happiness, & the causes of happiness.
And, for those many times when I do not, or cannot, remember to invoke this compassionate prayer ……
May I too be free of suffering, & the causes of suffering, may I too have happiness, & the causes of happiness
- Cultivating Compassion by Gil Fronsdal (bayintegratedmarketing.wordpress.com)